Monday, December 11, 2006
Kiss Me Passionately But Don't Get to Know Me
After many conversations with clients and workers, I came to the conclusion that there are two distinct groups. One group wants the physical part of the job to be performed excellently (often, though not always, in a hurry) and then get rid of the worker - and the same holds true for the latter who wants to bring the session to end swiftly. The same way one would want a handyman to do his job: expertly, efficiently, and fast. The second group wants to get to know the worker and have a "date," combining the physical and the mental. I definitely belong to the second group. After two sessions, I have just dismissed a virtuoso worker. He seemed to enjoy his job, gave excellent service and then some, but wanted the session to begin right away in the bedroom and end there. He wasn't even a clock watcher. It was not the time that mattered to him - he wanted as little human contact as possible. How a worker can be as affectionate as he was without the slightest interest in his client, is beyond me. Many clients are happy with this attitude. They have their friends. Their handyman, electricians, and sex workers are there to perform specific tasks, not to socialize with. The workers feel that their job is to please their clients physically, and then meet their own friends.
Over many years I have discussed this with scores of workers and clients. I still don't understand the phenomenon of anonymous sex, though it turns on quite a lot of gay men. Hence ads that read, "The door is open, I am blindfolded, and on my knees. Let yourself in, screw me, and leave." As an after thought the advertisers add: "Please send pic." (If they are truly blindfolded why do they need a photo?) I understand this phenomenon even less when one pays for the service or gets remunerated for it. But then, I tend to see my workers for years and anonymity would not work. Or wouldn't it? I have known clients who have seen the same worker on a weekly basis, and neither party cared to know much about the other.
I suppose it takes all kinds to make the word go round.
After many conversations with clients and workers, I came to the conclusion that there are two distinct groups. One group wants the physical part of the job to be performed excellently (often, though not always, in a hurry) and then get rid of the worker - and the same holds true for the latter who wants to bring the session to end swiftly. The same way one would want a handyman to do his job: expertly, efficiently, and fast. The second group wants to get to know the worker and have a "date," combining the physical and the mental. I definitely belong to the second group. After two sessions, I have just dismissed a virtuoso worker. He seemed to enjoy his job, gave excellent service and then some, but wanted the session to begin right away in the bedroom and end there. He wasn't even a clock watcher. It was not the time that mattered to him - he wanted as little human contact as possible. How a worker can be as affectionate as he was without the slightest interest in his client, is beyond me. Many clients are happy with this attitude. They have their friends. Their handyman, electricians, and sex workers are there to perform specific tasks, not to socialize with. The workers feel that their job is to please their clients physically, and then meet their own friends.
Over many years I have discussed this with scores of workers and clients. I still don't understand the phenomenon of anonymous sex, though it turns on quite a lot of gay men. Hence ads that read, "The door is open, I am blindfolded, and on my knees. Let yourself in, screw me, and leave." As an after thought the advertisers add: "Please send pic." (If they are truly blindfolded why do they need a photo?) I understand this phenomenon even less when one pays for the service or gets remunerated for it. But then, I tend to see my workers for years and anonymity would not work. Or wouldn't it? I have known clients who have seen the same worker on a weekly basis, and neither party cared to know much about the other.
I suppose it takes all kinds to make the word go round.
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